Dr. Monica Reintjes, PhD, Military Spouse Therapist in Virginia

How I work with military families as a military spouse and mental health therapist

I’m personally and professionally familiar with the demands that these long stretches of time place on military families, and will guide you in tapping into your own strengths and resources, while also holding space for the challenging feelings that may come up.  

Military deployments can activate a whole range of complex, sweeping emotions. Some common experiences for military families during deployments include:

  • Resentment for being the sole household manager and parent

    The spouse at home is depleted from the tasks of solo household management and parenting, and feelings of resentment, anger, and loneliness can arise. As your therapist, I’ll normalize and validate this for you while helping us understand a path forward.

  • Challenges with kids after a parent is deployed

    For parents, there may be challenges with kids acting out, asking tricky questions about whether the deployed spouse will come back, or wanting to learn more about what happens on a deployment. 

    Kids thrive on routine and structure, and the disruption of deployment can be very hard on them. I call on my expertise as an educator and a clinician to support families through the hard work of parenting on a deployment.

  • The juxtaposition of a joyous homecoming and difficult reintegration

    We’d like to seamlessly pick up where we left off, but routines have changed, kids have gotten older, and both partners have had complex experiences without the other by their side.

    There’s nothing wrong with you and your family if you don’t have the picture-perfect homecoming.  I can help you navigate these emotions while offering tips and ideas to make the process go more smoothly. 

Working with military families is a personal passion.

As a military spouse and a working parent, I’m acutely aware of some of these challenges, and I’d love to help. If you are looking for support during deployment please see my deployment coaching page.

In addition, I’m experienced in treating:

  • Anxiety (panic attacks, OCD, perfectionism)

  • Depression (Thinking disorders, negative cognitive loops, mood disorders)

  • Trauma/PTSD

  • Relationship issues (codependency, conflict, communication, trust)

  • ADHD

  • Suicidal thought patterns

  • Parenting (teenagers, loss of respect, loss of motivation, kids with special needs) 

  • Family conflict

  • Women’s Issues (Hormonal Imbalances, Chronic Illness, PMDD, Menopause, Mom Rage)

  • Life Transitions

Frequently Asked Questions

  • We meet weekly for 45 minutes and focus on your goals and concerns.

    With regular attendance, research shows that most clients experience improvement within 10-15 sessions, but often we continue past this to deepen and integrate the learning.

    Therapy varies client to client and we can discuss this more when we meet.

  • I currently function as an out-of-network provider. I’m happy to provide you with the appropriate paperwork to submit for out-of-network reimbursement, if your insurance honors this.

  • 45-minute session: $200
    Psychological intake/evaluation: $250

    Payment for each session is expected to be rendered at the time of the service. Accepted methods of payment include Visa, Mastercard, American Express, JCB, and Discover. FSA and HSA cards are also accepted. Autopay is available.

  • Psychotherapy is considered healthcare and our sessions are completely confidential. There are some exceptions to this that relate to safety, and we will discuss this in our consultation call.

  • Yes! This is a normal feeling, but most people feel much better after their first session.

  • Schedule a 15-minute free consultation with me, during which time we’ll learn more about what’s bringing you in, and discuss my fees, availability and a plan. If it feels like a good match we can schedule our first session.

Military Spouse Therapist Virginia

I’m looking forward to supporting you.

Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to determine whether I’m a good fit for you.